Cheating seems like the norm these days as we tend to see it a lot in the media, in the shows we watch and in the music we hear. Everything we see at least seems to promote it now and as time passes it’s seems to be promoted even more.It seems that people are so bored or unhappy with themselves that they will allow themselves to go that route.
Now this is not a article written to bash Women because Men tend to cheat as well and as much as Women do. Why do we allow ourselves to go that route even though it’s morally wrong to do so? Is it like unsaid before above that maybe we become so bored with the mundane or are so unhappy with the way our lives have turned out that some distraction is necessary? Or is it because of the thrill of getting caught? Who knows but I have to admit that it does feel exhilarating when you are the one cheating, but it sucks when you are at the receiving end of it.
I know because I have been on both sides of the spectrum and in the end it just sucks. Sometimes these things do happen and the best we can do is to learn to live with it and move on to something else. Life can be a hard teacher of life. I know for me i could remember the anger and confusion I had when it happened to me. I would be pulling my hair out wondering why this happened and if it was me.Most of the time when your better half starts cheating on you the reasons have nothing to do with you at all. Sometimes it’s that they think they have found something better and 9 times out of 10 they have not.
Now that we have spoken about the pain of cheating and being cheated upon feels here are the signs you will notice when your Woman is cheating on you.
First sign: The Phone Calls Stop When you first met the phone calls were constant.
Every minute of every day you two were on the phone constantly talking about everything under the sun and once you are done you start all over again and talk some more abut the same stuff you spoke about. Then one day you notice that the phone calls abruptly stop. At first you do not think too much about it but then another day passes. As yet another day passes you call or text that woman you are fond of and all you get is the Voice Mail or no answer to the text.
Second sign: She Starts Acting Cold Toward You.
When you do see her you notice that she has become distant and cold. You ask her what is wrong and she tells you the old tried and true method that there is something wrong “nothing”. Yet she is not responding to your caresses and seems to be more attracted to her Smart Phone than she is of you. It’s like you are no longer her Boyfriend but a stranger. She will become irritated by your constant trying to figure out what is wrong with her and will start a fight so that she can have an excuse to leave you.
Third sign: She No Longer Wants To Have Sex With You.
There was a time that she was your sex kitten! You were being sexed all day and practically everyday until one day the well dried up and you are left high and dry. When you get to this point the thought of maybe she is cheating on me will pop in your head. Still the mere thought that she may be cheating on you with some one else makes you mad you still ignore it as maybe she is going through something and not cheating on you.
Fourth sign: Starts To Hang Out With Her Single Friends Again.
When you were with her she was with you. At times you guys went out together or with her friends and things were fun. Now all of a sudden she starts going out with her girls decked out to the nines by herself while you are at home watching TV.
You text her to see how she is doing and no answer the whole night. Not only that she went out wearing her hooker dress! You know which one! The one you always beg for her to wear but never does.
And yet you still do not want to realize that she may be cheating on you. Still that nagging thought in your head is gnawing at you. While you lay in bed staring up at the ceiling the realization starts to come forward as you start putting two and two together.
Your mind starts to entertain the thought of her cheating you. Your emotions awake and start fucking with you. Is it the mailman, is it the neighbor across the street? Or that guy that worked in Best Buy she was flirting with!
Fifth sign: Starts Dressing Better.
All of a sudden she starts getting her hair and nails done and starts smelling good much like the way you knew her when you first met. You try to get romantic with her only for her to shoot down your advances. That thought of her cheating on you is becoming more and more clearer as time passes. The end is near and at this point there is no longer a reason to ignore it as it is already in the forefront that she is cheating on you with someone else.
You start to cry alone as the thought of losing her is too much to bare. At this time is when you are at you weakest is when you need to pull deep inside and pull out you strength! The power that will get you through this.
Sixth sign: She no longer cares about your well being.
If you stayed this far then there is a good chance that your relationship is running on fumes. She no longer cares, nor respects you. She has gone on with her life and has probably moved out on her own. She began living her life and hanging out with her girls and God only knows what else. Alone in your apartment you shared with her at one time makes you depressed, angry and sad.
She took the bed, the living room furniture and the like because it was hers she claims even though you remember clearly paying the bill most of the time. Now you look around at the brokenness and emptiness while the flicker of your Flat Screen TV which is the only thing she left behind.
She left you behind while she is running around with a new man by her side without a care in the world. And you feeling the pain of finally knowing the truth you think to yourself while you wallow in your self pity “Why?” Why is something you may never know and should not know. The best thing that you will need to do is for you to also move on with your life.
Those are the signs I have seen because i was that man I just spoke about above. But I learned a valuable lesson and that is that people are who they are. That we cannot control people or their love and at times things like what I spoke about is what happens. Not worry though life is a hard teacher and as time passes and this happens again and yes it will happen again at least now you know what to expect.
Learn from life and become stronger and more powerful. Learn to Grow!
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